The Secret Handbook 4 Teens

5 Easy Things 2 Do 2 Learn 2 Accept Yourself

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In some previous posts I shared my cheat sheet to loving yourself which includes the six steps below:


1. Know yourself.

2. Be true to yourself.

3. Accept yourself.

4. Be gentle with yourself.

5. Value yourself.

6. Invest in yourself.


Today we’re going to talk about #3: Accept Yourself.


If you think about the list, it all sort of makes sense so far doesn’t it? First you need to know yourself and understand who you are. Once you’ve gotten that figured out, you then need to stand up for who you know you are inside. Number 3 on this list can be a tough one because sometimes our True Self is not exactly who we thought we were or may be tough to live up to! On top of that, let’s face it, we’re our own worst critics and are harder on ourselves than anyone else is. All that negative self-talk doesn’t help move us forward though, it just holds us back.


Here are my top 5 tips to help you accept yourself as you are:


1) Celebrate and focus on your strengths and positives.


It’s easy to look at what’s wrong. Celebrate and recognize all the things you do well and all the positive aspects of you. Are you great at math but suck at soccer? Own it. Are you great at sports but not really an academic wonder? Own that. Are you a little curvier than your average supermodel? Rock those curves. Is your nose a little longer than your best friend’s? Consider it regal.  It doesn’t matter what you’re good at or what you look like, everyone has positives and strengths. Recognize and focus on those.

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