The Secret Handbook 4 Teens

Why Doubt is Like A Thief Stealing Your Dreams


Faith is taking the first step even when you don’t see the whole staircase. – Martin Luther King, Jr. 

We’ve talked about knowing your moral code and we’ve talked about passion and desire as necessary to achieving your dreams but we can’t forget about faith. While we often think about the word faith in terms of religion, the first and simplest definition of faith is as follows:

faith – noun. 1. complete trust or confidence in someone or something

“Complete trust”, to me, is the really critical part of the definition. A lack of faith or worry or doubt or just the smallest thought of “I’ll never be able to do this” is enough to ensure that you probably won’t.

Doubt undermines your dreams and believe me, doubt can creep in without you even knowing. It’s sort of like a thief sneaking in at night to steal what’s really valuable to you but in this case, it’s slowly stealing your dreams.

So how do you keep the faith in your dreams and in yourself?

Part of it is stopping all the negative chatter in your mind. If you let your little voice take over it will very quickly tell you that you’re not good enough, your dreams are ridiculous and there is no way you’ll ever make them come true.

Here’s where you have to do some work. You need to 1) become aware of that little voice and 2) replace its negative chatter with positive self-talk.

When you feel yourself starting to doubt, change the conversation. Tell yourself you can do it, you will do it, that you have a plan for doing it. Picture it coming true. Imagine yourself living your dream and all that it entails. Just by replacing the negative with the positive you give yourself a fighting chance and you start to replace doubt with faith. You can’t get lazy about it though. Just doing it once in awhile means doubt is winning so you have to be like a cop trying to stop a thief. Be vigilant!

Don’t let doubt chip away at your dreams. It’s such a silly reason to give up.

Believe in your dreams. Believe in yourself. Believe you can do anything you can set your mind to.




Dreams not coming true fast enough? Be patient. These things take time.


All great achievements require time. – Maya Angelou

I don’t know about you but I can get pretty impatient pretty quickly. Whether it’s picking the wrong line  in a store or getting stuck behind a slow driver, I like things to happen quickly and according to MY schedule. As you can imagine, this can become an issue when trying to achieve longer term goals because progress is not always  immediately obvious and sometimes not obvious at all.

Adding to this, we live in a society where things happen fast and where our needs are met just as quickly. Need information or directions? Your smart phone can give it to you in mere seconds. This too makes it equally frustrating when we’re trying to achieve a goal and it doesn’t happen overnight. We expect immediate results.

What history has shown us though is that most great achievements take time. Diseases aren’t cured overnight. Most great inventions have been worked on for years and years without a breakthrough. Books take time to write. Paintings and sculptures are not created in a 24 hour period. The iPhone didn’t spring to life just because Steve Jobs thoughts about it.  Great achievements requires time and effort (oh and faith and desire too).

What would have happened if these writers, painters, artists and inventors all just gave up because they didn’t see immediate progress? That’s why you can’t give up either. If you have a dream to be the next Selena Gomez, have a plan, stick to it and be patient. I could obviously go on and on with examples but at the end of the day, great achievements requires constant work, dedication, a solid plan, faith, desire and, perhaps most importantly, patience.

Think about your goals and dreams? Do you give up because you don’t see immediate results? Do you have enough patience? Did you ever come close to achieving something but didn’t because it just didn’t happen fast enough? Give it time young grasshopper. Give it time.