The Secret Handbook 4 Teens

The 10th Secret 4 Teens: Time 2 Make Your Dreams Come True


“When you wish upon a star

Makes no difference who you are

Anything your heart desires will come to you…”

Surely you know this song from Walt Disney’s Pinocchio right? A bit misleading if you ask me. Wish upon a star and your dreams can come true? Ready for some adult style truth? Sadly, I’m here to tell you that it’s not that easy. You can’t just look into the sky at  night, close your eyes, make a wish and wait for it to come to you. That’s the bad news.

Ready for the good news?

The good news is that you absolutely can achieve every single one of your dreams.

But wait, it gets better! Ready for even better news?

The even better news is that there are actually steps you can follow to make your dreams come true.

That’s the 10th Secret 4 Teens: You Can Create the Life of Your Dreams by Following the Dream Steps

Let me be clear about something – you NEED to follow these steps, all of these steps, to achieve your dreams. You can’t pick and choose. You can’t decide that you’re different and that you don’t need to follow all of them. You do. But it’s worth it.

There are plenty of websites, books, videos and articles out there about how to achieve your dreams. As you review them, you’ll see a lot of the same words like desire, belief, faith, action, visualization, manifesting, etc. etc. etc. You will keep finding the same words and discussions because these actually are the right words and the concepts you need to learn. The thing is, many people give you this information in drips and drabs without ever laying it all out in a simple plan or map or process for you to follow. That’s why you end up with vanilla statements about “making your dreams come true with desire” or “if you believe it you can do it” which are all very nice and inspiring but do you really know what to do with these statements?

What I’m going to do is give you a list of all the steps you need to follow to create your dreams.  They do require things like desire, belief and faith and, perhaps most importantly, hard work and action but when followed and implemented according to a simple plan/blueprint, you end up with something amazing – the accomplishment of your dreams.

So here’s your homework for now. Go back and review the first 9 secrets. These are an important part of the plan. You need to do things like stop listening to your little voice, approach life from a place of love and practice things like gratitude and forgiveness. All these initial secrets I’ve shared are all critical components of achieving your dreams and you need to practice them every day to make the dream steps that much easier to learn and implement.

So get excited! You’re about to learn everything you need to know about achieving and living your dreams. You’re going to have to work at it and you won’t just be wishing on a star but your dreams will come true. I promise.




The 9th Secret 2 Living Happy: Practice Forgiveness (& the One BIG Reason U Need 2 Forgive & Forget)


Everyone says forgiveness is a lovely idea until they have something to forgive. – C.S. Lewis

What a great quote right? In theory, forgiveness sounds like it should be pretty easy to do and the reasons why we should do it are also pretty obvious. But, if you’ve ever been really hurt (and I know as teenagers you get hurt a lot), you know just how hard it is to let go of that hurt and actually forgive the person who hurt you.

Let’s look at what it means to forgive.

Forgiving means letting go of hurt, anger, resentment and thoughts of revenge. It does NOT mean that you’re condoning or pardoning someone for what they did. It simply means that you’re not going to let that act continue to hurt you over and over and over again. If nothing else, think about the power you’re giving the person who hurt you! You’re thinking about them every day. They’re always on your mind. They pop into your head when things are going well and make you feel crappy. Forgiving them actually takes away some of their power over you and that alone is a good enough reason to forgive them.

This leads me to the one big reason you need to practice forgiveness: Forgiveness gives you a fresh start and cuts the ties to the past. 

Not forgiving keeps you chained to the past and, as we all know, the past is over and the place to be is the present moment! When you actively go back to the past and re-live and re-experience painful moments over and over again YOU are the one choosing to go there.  You are the one actively choosing to go back into the past and peel off the scab. Believe me, you are not gaining anything by peeling off that nasty scab. All you’re doing is opening up the wound again and again which slows your healing and, duh, it hurts! By practicing forgiveness, you allow yourself to start fresh and live in the present moment. You tear down the wall in your heart and open yourself up to a new and happy present and future.

As usual, Oprah says it best:

“Forgiveness is letting go of the hope that the past can be changed.” 

So who have you not forgiven? What hurts are you hanging on to? How would it feel to let that pain go? Who can you forgive today?

Practice forgiveness and you may just realize that the person being punished was you.


The 5th Secret for Teens: It’s a 4 Letter Word But it’s Not #%&@

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Oh #%&@

Ok, the 5th Secret is actually not that kind of four-letter word but let’s face it, we all have moments when pulling out that four lettered word seems like the only appropriate response to the situation (Just don’t tell your parents you curse…we like to think that you never do and never will and will also never admit that you learned it from us.) Anyway, I’m here to suggest that there is another type of response to those situations that also involves a four-letter word and that word is LOVE.

In fact the 5th Secret is very simple – Life is All About Love. 

Sound too simple? It probably also sounds very hippie-let’s-all-sit-around-in-a-circle-and-play-guitar-and-hold-hands-while-we-wish-for-world-peace too. At least it does to me. But that’s not the kind of love I’m talking about. I’m also definitely not talking about romantic love which is wonderful and important but I don’t expect you to romantically love everyone (plus it would be weird and I’m not sure exactly how you’d handle all those relationships and heartbreaks but I digress…)

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The 4th Secret: Get Ready 2 Meet The Real You

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Warning: This might be the deepest or most complicated secret that we’re going to discuss so stick with me and keep an open mind. You can also review the first three secrets listed all in one place in case you want to review before we start.

Ok, let’s go.

Hopefully at this point you’re curious and perhaps even a little worried about who you are if you’re not the little voice in your head.

If I asked you: “Who are you?” what would you say? Our initial instincts are usually to talk about our history.

“Well, I was born in the year 2000 and I’m female and I have a mom and a dad and an annoying younger brother and a cat.”

So now you’ve told me a little bit about yourself but what if I said, “That’s nice but who are you really?”

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Super Ego Squishing Tool #2: Practice Present Moment Awareness

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Ok, it’s time for another Super Ego Squishing Tool but let’s recap what we’ve discussed so far.

So far we’ve learned two Secrets:

1. You are not the little voice in your head.

2. You do not have to listen to the little voice in  your head & there are Super Ego Squishing tools to help you do this.

And the 1st Ego Squishing Tool: Practice Awareness and how you can practice awareness during moments of high emotion and when you’re in doubt.

Hopefully at this point you’re starting to realize that by becoming aware of your ego/the little voice in your head, you can start to dampen it’s control over your life so your soul and spirit and True Self can start to shine and soar.

That said, let’s add another Ego Squishing Tool to your arsenal beyond just plain old awareness. You’re a smart cookie so I’m sure you’re ready to move on a bit right?

Here’s Super Eqo Squishing Tool #2: Practice Present Moment Awareness 

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