The Secret Handbook 4 Teens

What Can U Learn from the People U Don’t Like?


I don’t like that man. I must get to know him better. – Abraham Lincoln

Sometimes we spend quite a bit of time thinking about people we don’t like but maybe there’s something to learn from them. Maybe there’s even something to learn about ourselves.

Don’t get me wrong, there are some really nasty and downright evil people out there and I’m not suggesting you try to make them your friends. I am suggesting that even those people have things to teach us.

Think about someone you don’t like.

Now ask yourself why you don’t like them?

Is it because they are mean or rude to you or your friends?

There’s a lesson about how to not treat people.

Do you not like them because they are really negative all the time?

There’s a lesson in how negativity brings you and everyone else around you down.

Do you not like them because they’re popular? (Be honest.)

There’s a lesson in your ego. Why does it bother you if they’re popular? Is it just your little voice making you jealous inside? Are there actually some traits about them that make them popular that you wish you had yourself? Is that really a reason not to like them?

Sometimes the things we dislike in others are things we wish we had OR there are things we don’t like about ourselves that we see in them. Sometimes you may actually like the person if you took time to get to know them and you are just judging them based on what other people say or on how you perceive them to be. Sometimes they may actually be nice people but we’re not looking at them deeply enough.

So take a minute and ask yourself why you don’t like someone and the think about it a bit. Don’t just rush to judgment. Really think about it.

You might be surprised at what you learn about yourself.


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